diff --git a/drivers/infiniband/hw/qedr/qedr.h b/drivers/infiniband/hw/qedr/qedr.h
index 0cfd849b13d6..8e927f6c1520 100644
--- a/drivers/infiniband/hw/qedr/qedr.h
+++ b/drivers/infiniband/hw/qedr/qedr.h
@@ -40,6 +40,7 @@
 #include <linux/qed/qed_rdma_if.h>
 #include <linux/qed/qede_rdma.h>
 #include <linux/qed/roce_common.h>
+#include <linux/completion.h>
 #include "qedr_hsi_rdma.h"
 
 #define QEDR_NODE_DESC "QLogic 579xx RoCE HCA"
@@ -377,10 +378,20 @@ enum qedr_qp_err_bitmap {
 	QEDR_QP_ERR_RQ_PBL_FULL = 32,
 };
 
+enum qedr_qp_create_type {
+	QEDR_QP_CREATE_NONE,
+	QEDR_QP_CREATE_USER,
+	QEDR_QP_CREATE_KERNEL,
+};
+
+enum qedr_iwarp_cm_flags {
+	QEDR_IWARP_CM_WAIT_FOR_CONNECT    = BIT(0),
+	QEDR_IWARP_CM_WAIT_FOR_DISCONNECT = BIT(1),
+};
+
 struct qedr_qp {
 	struct ib_qp ibqp;	/* must be first */
 	struct qedr_dev *dev;
-	struct qedr_iw_ep *ep;
 	struct qedr_qp_hwq_info sq;
 	struct qedr_qp_hwq_info rq;
 
@@ -395,6 +406,7 @@ struct qedr_qp {
 	u32 id;
 	struct qedr_pd *pd;
 	enum ib_qp_type qp_type;
+	enum qedr_qp_create_type create_type;
 	struct qed_rdma_qp *qed_qp;
 	u32 qp_id;
 	u16 icid;
@@ -437,8 +449,11 @@ struct qedr_qp {
 	/* Relevant to qps created from user space only (applications) */
 	struct qedr_userq usq;
 	struct qedr_userq urq;
-	atomic_t refcnt;
-	bool destroyed;
+
+	/* synchronization objects used with iwarp ep */
+	struct kref refcnt;
+	struct completion iwarp_cm_comp;
+	unsigned long iwarp_cm_flags; /* enum iwarp_cm_flags */
 };
 
 struct qedr_ah {
@@ -531,7 +546,7 @@ struct qedr_iw_ep {
 	struct iw_cm_id	*cm_id;
 	struct qedr_qp	*qp;
 	void		*qed_context;
-	u8		during_connect;
+	struct kref	refcnt;
 };
 
 static inline
diff --git a/drivers/infiniband/hw/qedr/qedr_iw_cm.c b/drivers/infiniband/hw/qedr/qedr_iw_cm.c
index 7fea74739c1f..5e9732990be5 100644
--- a/drivers/infiniband/hw/qedr/qedr_iw_cm.c
+++ b/drivers/infiniband/hw/qedr/qedr_iw_cm.c
@@ -79,6 +79,27 @@ qedr_fill_sockaddr6(const struct qed_iwarp_cm_info *cm_info,
 	}
 }
 
+static void qedr_iw_free_qp(struct kref *ref)
+{
+	struct qedr_qp *qp = container_of(ref, struct qedr_qp, refcnt);
+
+	kfree(qp);
+}
+
+static void
+qedr_iw_free_ep(struct kref *ref)
+{
+	struct qedr_iw_ep *ep = container_of(ref, struct qedr_iw_ep, refcnt);
+
+	if (ep->qp)
+		kref_put(&ep->qp->refcnt, qedr_iw_free_qp);
+
+	if (ep->cm_id)
+		ep->cm_id->rem_ref(ep->cm_id);
+
+	kfree(ep);
+}
+
 static void
 qedr_iw_mpa_request(void *context, struct qed_iwarp_cm_event_params *params)
 {
@@ -93,6 +114,7 @@ qedr_iw_mpa_request(void *context, struct qed_iwarp_cm_event_params *params)
 
 	ep->dev = dev;
 	ep->qed_context = params->ep_context;
+	kref_init(&ep->refcnt);
 
 	memset(&event, 0, sizeof(event));
 	event.event = IW_CM_EVENT_CONNECT_REQUEST;
@@ -141,12 +163,10 @@ qedr_iw_close_event(void *context, struct qed_iwarp_cm_event_params *params)
 {
 	struct qedr_iw_ep *ep = (struct qedr_iw_ep *)context;
 
-	if (ep->cm_id) {
+	if (ep->cm_id)
 		qedr_iw_issue_event(context, params, IW_CM_EVENT_CLOSE);
 
-		ep->cm_id->rem_ref(ep->cm_id);
-		ep->cm_id = NULL;
-	}
+	kref_put(&ep->refcnt, qedr_iw_free_ep);
 }
 
 static void
@@ -186,11 +206,13 @@ static void qedr_iw_disconnect_worker(struct work_struct *work)
 	struct qedr_qp *qp = ep->qp;
 	struct iw_cm_event event;
 
-	if (qp->destroyed) {
-		kfree(dwork);
-		qedr_iw_qp_rem_ref(&qp->ibqp);
-		return;
-	}
+	/* The qp won't be released until we release the ep.
+	 * the ep's refcnt was increased before calling this
+	 * function, therefore it is safe to access qp
+	 */
+	if (test_and_set_bit(QEDR_IWARP_CM_WAIT_FOR_DISCONNECT,
+			     &qp->iwarp_cm_flags))
+		goto out;
 
 	memset(&event, 0, sizeof(event));
 	event.status = dwork->status;
@@ -204,7 +226,6 @@ static void qedr_iw_disconnect_worker(struct work_struct *work)
 	else
 		qp_params.new_state = QED_ROCE_QP_STATE_SQD;
 
-	kfree(dwork);
 
 	if (ep->cm_id)
 		ep->cm_id->event_handler(ep->cm_id, &event);
@@ -214,7 +235,10 @@ static void qedr_iw_disconnect_worker(struct work_struct *work)
 
 	dev->ops->rdma_modify_qp(dev->rdma_ctx, qp->qed_qp, &qp_params);
 
-	qedr_iw_qp_rem_ref(&qp->ibqp);
+	complete(&ep->qp->iwarp_cm_comp);
+out:
+	kfree(dwork);
+	kref_put(&ep->refcnt, qedr_iw_free_ep);
 }
 
 static void
@@ -224,13 +248,17 @@ qedr_iw_disconnect_event(void *context,
 	struct qedr_discon_work *work;
 	struct qedr_iw_ep *ep = (struct qedr_iw_ep *)context;
 	struct qedr_dev *dev = ep->dev;
-	struct qedr_qp *qp = ep->qp;
 
 	work = kzalloc(sizeof(*work), GFP_ATOMIC);
 	if (!work)
 		return;
 
-	qedr_iw_qp_add_ref(&qp->ibqp);
+	/* We can't get a close event before disconnect, but since
+	 * we're scheduling a work queue we need to make sure close
+	 * won't delete the ep, so we increase the refcnt
+	 */
+	kref_get(&ep->refcnt);
+
 	work->ep = ep;
 	work->event = params->event;
 	work->status = params->status;
@@ -252,16 +280,30 @@ qedr_iw_passive_complete(void *context,
 	if ((params->status == -ECONNREFUSED) && (!ep->qp)) {
 		DP_DEBUG(dev, QEDR_MSG_IWARP,
 			 "PASSIVE connection refused releasing ep...\n");
-		kfree(ep);
+		kref_put(&ep->refcnt, qedr_iw_free_ep);
 		return;
 	}
 
+	complete(&ep->qp->iwarp_cm_comp);
 	qedr_iw_issue_event(context, params, IW_CM_EVENT_ESTABLISHED);
 
 	if (params->status < 0)
 		qedr_iw_close_event(context, params);
 }
 
+static void
+qedr_iw_active_complete(void *context,
+			struct qed_iwarp_cm_event_params *params)
+{
+	struct qedr_iw_ep *ep = (struct qedr_iw_ep *)context;
+
+	complete(&ep->qp->iwarp_cm_comp);
+	qedr_iw_issue_event(context, params, IW_CM_EVENT_CONNECT_REPLY);
+
+	if (params->status < 0)
+		kref_put(&ep->refcnt, qedr_iw_free_ep);
+}
+
 static int
 qedr_iw_mpa_reply(void *context, struct qed_iwarp_cm_event_params *params)
 {
@@ -288,27 +330,15 @@ qedr_iw_event_handler(void *context, struct qed_iwarp_cm_event_params *params)
 		qedr_iw_mpa_reply(context, params);
 		break;
 	case QED_IWARP_EVENT_PASSIVE_COMPLETE:
-		ep->during_connect = 0;
 		qedr_iw_passive_complete(context, params);
 		break;
-
 	case QED_IWARP_EVENT_ACTIVE_COMPLETE:
-		ep->during_connect = 0;
-		qedr_iw_issue_event(context,
-				    params,
-				    IW_CM_EVENT_CONNECT_REPLY);
-		if (params->status < 0) {
-			struct qedr_iw_ep *ep = (struct qedr_iw_ep *)context;
-
-			ep->cm_id->rem_ref(ep->cm_id);
-			ep->cm_id = NULL;
-		}
+		qedr_iw_active_complete(context, params);
 		break;
 	case QED_IWARP_EVENT_DISCONNECT:
 		qedr_iw_disconnect_event(context, params);
 		break;
 	case QED_IWARP_EVENT_CLOSE:
-		ep->during_connect = 0;
 		qedr_iw_close_event(context, params);
 		break;
 	case QED_IWARP_EVENT_RQ_EMPTY:
@@ -476,6 +506,19 @@ qedr_addr6_resolve(struct qedr_dev *dev,
 	return rc;
 }
 
+struct qedr_qp *qedr_iw_load_qp(struct qedr_dev *dev, u32 qpn)
+{
+	struct qedr_qp *qp;
+
+	xa_lock(&dev->qps);
+	qp = xa_load(&dev->qps, qpn);
+	if (qp)
+		kref_get(&qp->refcnt);
+	xa_unlock(&dev->qps);
+
+	return qp;
+}
+
 int qedr_iw_connect(struct iw_cm_id *cm_id, struct iw_cm_conn_param *conn_param)
 {
 	struct qedr_dev *dev = get_qedr_dev(cm_id->device);
@@ -491,10 +534,6 @@ int qedr_iw_connect(struct iw_cm_id *cm_id, struct iw_cm_conn_param *conn_param)
 	int rc = 0;
 	int i;
 
-	qp = xa_load(&dev->qps, conn_param->qpn);
-	if (unlikely(!qp))
-		return -EINVAL;
-
 	laddr = (struct sockaddr_in *)&cm_id->m_local_addr;
 	raddr = (struct sockaddr_in *)&cm_id->m_remote_addr;
 	laddr6 = (struct sockaddr_in6 *)&cm_id->m_local_addr;
@@ -516,8 +555,15 @@ int qedr_iw_connect(struct iw_cm_id *cm_id, struct iw_cm_conn_param *conn_param)
 		return -ENOMEM;
 
 	ep->dev = dev;
+	kref_init(&ep->refcnt);
+
+	qp = qedr_iw_load_qp(dev, conn_param->qpn);
+	if (!qp) {
+		rc = -EINVAL;
+		goto err;
+	}
+
 	ep->qp = qp;
-	qp->ep = ep;
 	cm_id->add_ref(cm_id);
 	ep->cm_id = cm_id;
 
@@ -580,16 +626,20 @@ int qedr_iw_connect(struct iw_cm_id *cm_id, struct iw_cm_conn_param *conn_param)
 	in_params.qp = qp->qed_qp;
 	memcpy(in_params.local_mac_addr, dev->ndev->dev_addr, ETH_ALEN);
 
-	ep->during_connect = 1;
+	if (test_and_set_bit(QEDR_IWARP_CM_WAIT_FOR_CONNECT,
+			     &qp->iwarp_cm_flags))
+		goto err; /* QP already being destroyed */
+
 	rc = dev->ops->iwarp_connect(dev->rdma_ctx, &in_params, &out_params);
-	if (rc)
+	if (rc) {
+		complete(&qp->iwarp_cm_comp);
 		goto err;
+	}
 
 	return rc;
 
 err:
-	cm_id->rem_ref(cm_id);
-	kfree(ep);
+	kref_put(&ep->refcnt, qedr_iw_free_ep);
 	return rc;
 }
 
@@ -677,18 +727,17 @@ int qedr_iw_accept(struct iw_cm_id *cm_id, struct iw_cm_conn_param *conn_param)
 	struct qedr_dev *dev = ep->dev;
 	struct qedr_qp *qp;
 	struct qed_iwarp_accept_in params;
-	int rc;
+	int rc = 0;
 
 	DP_DEBUG(dev, QEDR_MSG_IWARP, "Accept on qpid=%d\n", conn_param->qpn);
 
-	qp = xa_load(&dev->qps, conn_param->qpn);
+	qp = qedr_iw_load_qp(dev, conn_param->qpn);
 	if (!qp) {
 		DP_ERR(dev, "Invalid QP number %d\n", conn_param->qpn);
 		return -EINVAL;
 	}
 
 	ep->qp = qp;
-	qp->ep = ep;
 	cm_id->add_ref(cm_id);
 	ep->cm_id = cm_id;
 
@@ -700,15 +749,21 @@ int qedr_iw_accept(struct iw_cm_id *cm_id, struct iw_cm_conn_param *conn_param)
 	params.ird = conn_param->ird;
 	params.ord = conn_param->ord;
 
-	ep->during_connect = 1;
+	if (test_and_set_bit(QEDR_IWARP_CM_WAIT_FOR_CONNECT,
+			     &qp->iwarp_cm_flags))
+		goto err; /* QP already destroyed */
+
 	rc = dev->ops->iwarp_accept(dev->rdma_ctx, &params);
-	if (rc)
+	if (rc) {
+		complete(&qp->iwarp_cm_comp);
 		goto err;
+	}
 
 	return rc;
+
 err:
-	ep->during_connect = 0;
-	cm_id->rem_ref(cm_id);
+	kref_put(&ep->refcnt, qedr_iw_free_ep);
+
 	return rc;
 }
 
@@ -731,17 +786,14 @@ void qedr_iw_qp_add_ref(struct ib_qp *ibqp)
 {
 	struct qedr_qp *qp = get_qedr_qp(ibqp);
 
-	atomic_inc(&qp->refcnt);
+	kref_get(&qp->refcnt);
 }
 
 void qedr_iw_qp_rem_ref(struct ib_qp *ibqp)
 {
 	struct qedr_qp *qp = get_qedr_qp(ibqp);
 
-	if (atomic_dec_and_test(&qp->refcnt)) {
-		xa_erase(&qp->dev->qps, qp->qp_id);
-		kfree(qp);
-	}
+	kref_put(&qp->refcnt, qedr_iw_free_qp);
 }
 
 struct ib_qp *qedr_iw_get_qp(struct ib_device *ibdev, int qpn)
diff --git a/drivers/infiniband/hw/qedr/verbs.c b/drivers/infiniband/hw/qedr/verbs.c
index 062165935441..8b4240c1cc76 100644
--- a/drivers/infiniband/hw/qedr/verbs.c
+++ b/drivers/infiniband/hw/qedr/verbs.c
@@ -51,6 +51,7 @@
 #include "verbs.h"
 #include <rdma/qedr-abi.h>
 #include "qedr_roce_cm.h"
+#include "qedr_iw_cm.h"
 
 #define QEDR_SRQ_WQE_ELEM_SIZE	sizeof(union rdma_srq_elm)
 #define	RDMA_MAX_SGE_PER_SRQ	(4)
@@ -1193,7 +1194,10 @@ static void qedr_set_common_qp_params(struct qedr_dev *dev,
 				      struct ib_qp_init_attr *attrs)
 {
 	spin_lock_init(&qp->q_lock);
-	atomic_set(&qp->refcnt, 1);
+	if (rdma_protocol_iwarp(&dev->ibdev, 1)) {
+		kref_init(&qp->refcnt);
+		init_completion(&qp->iwarp_cm_comp);
+	}
 	qp->pd = pd;
 	qp->qp_type = attrs->qp_type;
 	qp->max_inline_data = attrs->cap.max_inline_data;
@@ -1600,6 +1604,7 @@ static int qedr_create_user_qp(struct qedr_dev *dev,
 	int alloc_and_init = rdma_protocol_roce(&dev->ibdev, 1);
 	int rc = -EINVAL;
 
+	qp->create_type = QEDR_QP_CREATE_USER;
 	memset(&ureq, 0, sizeof(ureq));
 	rc = ib_copy_from_udata(&ureq, udata, sizeof(ureq));
 	if (rc) {
@@ -1813,6 +1818,7 @@ static int qedr_create_kernel_qp(struct qedr_dev *dev,
 	u32 n_sq_entries;
 
 	memset(&in_params, 0, sizeof(in_params));
+	qp->create_type = QEDR_QP_CREATE_KERNEL;
 
 	/* A single work request may take up to QEDR_MAX_SQ_WQE_SIZE elements in
 	 * the ring. The ring should allow at least a single WR, even if the
@@ -2445,7 +2451,7 @@ static int qedr_free_qp_resources(struct qedr_dev *dev, struct qedr_qp *qp,
 			return rc;
 	}
 
-	if (udata)
+	if (qp->create_type == QEDR_QP_CREATE_USER)
 		qedr_cleanup_user(dev, qp);
 	else
 		qedr_cleanup_kernel(dev, qp);
@@ -2475,34 +2481,44 @@ int qedr_destroy_qp(struct ib_qp *ibqp, struct ib_udata *udata)
 			qedr_modify_qp(ibqp, &attr, attr_mask, NULL);
 		}
 	} else {
-		/* Wait for the connect/accept to complete */
-		if (qp->ep) {
-			int wait_count = 1;
-
-			while (qp->ep->during_connect) {
-				DP_DEBUG(dev, QEDR_MSG_QP,
-					 "Still in during connect/accept\n");
-
-				msleep(100);
-				if (wait_count++ > 200) {
-					DP_NOTICE(dev,
-						  "during connect timeout\n");
-					break;
-				}
-			}
-		}
+		/* If connection establishment started the WAIT_FOR_CONNECT
+		 * bit will be on and we need to Wait for the establishment
+		 * to complete before destroying the qp.
+		 */
+		if (test_and_set_bit(QEDR_IWARP_CM_WAIT_FOR_CONNECT,
+				     &qp->iwarp_cm_flags))
+			wait_for_completion(&qp->iwarp_cm_comp);
+
+		/* If graceful disconnect started, the WAIT_FOR_DISCONNECT
+		 * bit will be on, and we need to wait for the disconnect to
+		 * complete before continuing. We can use the same completion,
+		 * iwarp_cm_comp, since this is the only place that waits for
+		 * this completion and it is sequential. In addition,
+		 * disconnect can't occur before the connection is fully
+		 * established, therefore if WAIT_FOR_DISCONNECT is on it
+		 * means WAIT_FOR_CONNECT is also on and the completion for
+		 * CONNECT already occurred.
+		 */
+		if (test_and_set_bit(QEDR_IWARP_CM_WAIT_FOR_DISCONNECT,
+				     &qp->iwarp_cm_flags))
+			wait_for_completion(&qp->iwarp_cm_comp);
 	}
 
 	if (qp->qp_type == IB_QPT_GSI)
 		qedr_destroy_gsi_qp(dev);
 
+	/* We need to remove the entry from the xarray before we release the
+	 * qp_id to avoid a race of the qp_id being reallocated and failing
+	 * on xa_insert
+	 */
+	if (rdma_protocol_iwarp(&dev->ibdev, 1))
+		xa_erase(&dev->qps, qp->qp_id);
+
 	qedr_free_qp_resources(dev, qp, udata);
 
-	if (atomic_dec_and_test(&qp->refcnt) &&
-	    rdma_protocol_iwarp(&dev->ibdev, 1)) {
-		xa_erase(&dev->qps, qp->qp_id);
-		kfree(qp);
-	}
+	if (rdma_protocol_iwarp(&dev->ibdev, 1))
+		qedr_iw_qp_rem_ref(&qp->ibqp);
+
 	return 0;
 }
 
